Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Happy 5th Birthday Tristan

6:45 a.m., I am laying in bed sleeping, I hear from Tristan’s room, “Mommy?! Do you know what today is?” I reply, “Yes! Happy Birthday Tristan! Come here!” Typically in the morning he comes, jumps up in bed and we snuggle for last few precious minutes before I have to face the day. I hear, “Ahhh, Mommy, you need to go downstairs and get my food and do that thing we talked about. “ Sigh. He asked for breakfast in bed like Daddy got on Fathers day. Just a note, has mommy ever got breakfast in bed? No. Is she bitter???? I will leave it to you, to decide :) I reply, “I am on it Tristan. Give me a second and I will be back with it.” He reply's, “Okay mommy. Oh and don’t forget to sing me the happy birthday song too.” Roll of my eyes, “Of course, Tristan.”

I am not going to even get into how the hell he is turning 5 or how I feel about it. There is not enough space or time to delve that deep into it. Time….it always gets the better of me in so, so many ways.

He wanted banana pancakes, so that is what he got, and a slice of bacon. We brought it to him and sang the "happy birthday song."




He wanted hot dogs for dinner, and so he got that too.






Saturday was his birthday party. It was the first year he asked for friends. Normally, he just wants the grandparents. We had the family first, and then later the kids came. Joel and I embrace the low key. We try to keep things simple. In that vein, the kids that were invited were not allowed to bring presents. Insanity... I know! I also know that some thought we were mean parents. Maybe. I just really feel that, first, he has enough. However, mostly I want him to learn to honor company for company's sake. Their gift to him was them sharing time with him. I want him to learn to ask people to share time with him for the joy in that, not for the crap he can collect from the invitation. So go ahead call me mean... I just hope he won't in therapy one day!

It is amazing to see how your children learn the social dance. To see how excited he was to show his room to friends and show them his special things was precious to me. You realize that for five, he is sharing himself. I loved to see it.

Our wonderful neighbor made his cake. It is really one of the cutest cakes I have ever seen, and if you live in Richmond, e-mail me if you want the contact information.



Not only was it a cute cake but it was crazy good (as always Mark!!), and I find it rare to get that combo. Tristan agrees.




Finally, after all the excitement of the day our neighbors stopped by for a special birthday wish for Tristan, and Jillian got some snuggle time.




We are lucky, so lucky to have great family and friends. It is days like this that really make me remember what my heart knows. We are blessed. even if time is not my friend...





Literally seems like yesterday...sigh...






7 comments:

Nina's Recipes said...

"Happy 5th Birthday Tristan"...
lovely pictures!

Bonoca said...

Very sweet post...your son will thank you one day for making it about the love and thoughtfulness of friends and family instead of the presents. The birthday cake is adorable...thanks for sharing!

Chris said...

Just wait till Tritan hits 21 ;) It'll seem like tomorrow.

Seems like a great party. I think the "no presents" idea was actually very cool.

Kim said...

What a sweet post! I love how you added all the picture and ended with his baby picture! Looks like Tristan had a wonderful birthday and I actually agree with the presents idea and think it's a great rule. The "present portion" of the party takes away too much time from the "party portion".
Tristan is a doll!

Joie de vivre said...

Time does fly doesn't it? My BABY is turning 5 this year and my big boy 7. Now how did that happen? On your birthday, you need to remind Tristan that you need breakfast in bed. :)

Ann Minard said...

So sweet, my baby boy just turned 19 today!

Choclette said...

Wonderful cake. And I like the idea of parties being about the fun of friends. I've seen some birthday parties where the kids are only interested in the presents they get and ignore the actual people. As for breakfast in bed, I'm sure one day you will be delighted to get a nice cold cup of tea, burnt toast and an underdone egg - that's the first breakfast in bed I gave my mother!